What's Stopping You?
June 26, 2010
Youíve been talking about pursuing your dream since high school. Youíve been stuffing a file with places youíd like to travel since you got your first job. Youíve envisioned what your boutique store would look like for years, even driving around searching for the perfect location, yet youíve never taken that next step.So, whatís stopping you?.
In my coaching with clients they regularly share the obstacles that are stopping them from moving forward. At least fifty percent of the time, these items are perceived, not real.
Hereís a list of the most popular ones Iíve heard and how to avoid them:
1. Iím too old.
Years ago I heard the story of a 70-year-old woman who lifted a car off her grandchild and saved his life. When she was interviewed, instead of being ecstatic, she was melancholy and admitted that if she could lift a car to save a child what else might she have been able to do that she never tried. The interviewer asked her what sheíd always wanted to do, but hadnít tried. The grandma replied, "Go to college." The interviewer challenged her, "So why not do it now?" And so she did.
You are only too old if YOU decide you are. There are lots of stories of older Olympians, older singers and older musicians-fields typically associated with youth.
2. It costs too much money.
I have found that most people who make this statement actually have no idea what the item in questions costs. They are operating on some notion that itís above what they would be willing to spend. Or they are not open to creative solutions and assume that they must pay retail for what they want-be it a new car, travel, or a house. There are many innovative ways to get what you want (and no, they arenít illegal!)